Linguistics-English-Psychology-Minds: Human Demands + Growth • Refuse with Boundaries+Principles • Self-Actualization with InnerPeace+SelfMastery

Linguistics-English-Minds:

The Standard of and essence of GROWTH

The standard of growth

The standard of growth:

• Is being able to refuse others without any guilt.
  This is because you are clear about your boundaries and principles.
• If you are deeply infatuated with someone, it means that you are not truly a match for them.
  This is because you are unable to engage with them on an equal footing.
• Only when you stop excessively depending on external validation,
  Can you truly find your own footing and achieve your own balance.

The essence of growth

The essence of growth:

• lies in self-actualization,
• But not in blindly seeking others approval. even if loneliness follow you like a shadow,
• Within that solitude, You will discover the inner peace and the power of self mastery.

Human Demands

Respects + Supports + Solutions

• Becky Kennedy, Clinical Psychologist of USA:

No matter how old your kid is, This is something every parent needs to know.
Your child is looking for your support, not for your solutions. This is TRUE at every age.
Let's say you have a toddler,

• And they can't figure out a puzzle, and they are frustrated.

  • They are looking for you to say:
    "Ah, this is a hard puzzle, ... how many times and methods u have tried?"
  • Not only: "I will do that piece for you."

• When your older kid is struggling to learn how to read,
  They are looking for you also to say:

  • "Learning how to read is so tricky, It was tricky for me, too."
  • Not only: "I will read that page for you."

• When your middle school-aged kid is struggling with a friend,
  They are looking for you also to say:

  • "Ah, I get why you are upset, ..."
  • Not only: "Why don't you just send them a text, And say what you want to stay."

Others are also looking for our supports

Our kids, like us, and the others, are looking for our support also, Not only our solutions.
Because when they have our support,
Guess what, They are really good at coming up with solutions on their own.