2020/10/10，饮食男女-对教条主义的补充和现实的摸索

　　饮食男女，人之大欲也 。每次食指大动都做点爱或者是吃点东西。饮食男女，可以拆开两个部份，饮食和男女。这两个部份始终贯穿了人类社会发展中每个人的罪恶和救赎。饮食是食物，混口饭吃，男女很浅显易懂的男女之间的那点事情。往高雅一点的说法可以是事业和爱情。

　　好了，当我说饮食男女的时候，我们在谈论什么。首先这个话题是有趣的，因为他沒有标准的答案，一千个人可以有一万种想法和可能性。后面，这个是关于人的本性的，作为一种生物，与生俱来的，不能控制自己的，所以她是关于欲望方面的。下面我准备讲的就算如何管理和控制我们“饮食男女”的欲望。

　　我们人类之所以叫自己是高级动物，这个高级就是高级在我们有自己强烈的显性意识，能压制自己的生物本能。想潜意识的欲望和显性意思不是割裂的，是互相影响作用的。比如你看到个靓妹不会直接冲了她，而是会用点手段收编她。

　　上文提到过饮食男女约等于现代社会中面包和爱情概念，又提到过人的意识和目的都是围绕这两件事情的，那么我准备讲的就是如何更好地控制我们欲望。作为男性，我们事业的分量是大于爱情的，女性则相反，女性在社会中通常是作为资源被男性竞争的。人都要好吃懒做的性格，但女人可以依附于男性，男性只能依附于自己（人只能自救）。所以我们事业是比爱情什么的要重要，这点很关键。毕竟可以一年不做爱的人很多，但一年不吃饭的人真没见过。在横线对比的时候，我们事业一定要严格要求自己，自立自强。绝对不能因为儿女情而影响。不能被一时的温柔蒙蔽双眼，沒有经济基础的爱情不会长远。

　　横向对比工作和爱情后，我们可以让他们纵向自我对比消化欲望。在事业的关键节点把握好节奏点，让他乘风破浪，旅途上的浪花就让他let it go。比如：选好行，选好公司，认真下功夫。在担心和同事说错什么话这些就不用上心，大胆说，一直很喜欢我自己说过一句话：谁怂谁sb。在爱情上，选对对的人进行婚姻，婚姻是第二次新生，虽然不是我说得，但也有点道理。在相对于沒有那么重要的点上，简单谈个恋爱，调戏个女同事完完全全沒有问题。

　　人不是铁板一块，7情6欲的罪恶谁都有。壁立千仞，无欲则刚，要做到无欲无求谈何容易。但我们可以机智地使用饮食男女的方法纵向横向地管理我们的欲望，进行自我的救赎。

 

　　Eat, drink, man, a woman is a kind of human desire that drives me to do everything including but not except eating and loving. Diet and man and woman can be separated into two parts, diet and men and woman. These two part have always  run through the sin and salvation  of everyone in the developemnt of human society. Eating and drinking is food, and for man and woman, It's very easy to understand. More elegant terms can be career and love.

　　all right, what we are talking about when we are going to talk about this concept. first of all, this topic is interesting, because it doesn't have a standard answer, and one thousands of people have their own ideas. later, this is about human nature. As a creature, she is born and cannot not control automatically, so it's about desire. what I am goint to talk about is how to manage and control our disires.

　　the reason why we call ourselves a high-level animal is that high-level has our own strong explicit awareness and suppress our own biological instincts. And explicit awareness and inplicit awareness are not separated, the influence each other. For example, when you see a pretty girl, you will not directly attack her, but will use some way to get her.

　　as mentioned about, eating and man/ woman is approximately equal to the idea of work and love in modern society, and I also mentioned the awareness of human being is around these two things, so what I am going to do is how to better control our desires. As a men, the weight of our career is greater than that of love, while women are on the contrary. Woman in society are usually competed by men as resources. Everyone has a lazy personality, but woman can depend on men, and man only can depend on himself (people only can save themselves). So our career is more important than love, which is the main point for man. a lot of people can have not sex in a year, but noboby can survive without food. When comparing horizantal lines, our career must strictly go first. Can not be linded by temporary tenderness, love without foundation will not long.

　　After comparing career and love horizantally, we can also let them compare theirselves vertically. grasp the rhytem at the key point of career, let him ride the wind and waves, let him let it go when it comes small things. For example, choose a good career, good coporation instead of worried about daily mistakes. like the saying goes by myself, person are shy is sb. In love, choosing the right person to marry, marrigge is the second birth, although it is not what I said, it also make senen. Relative to the less important point, there is no problem at all with a simple relationship with no matter classmate and colleague.

　　it is not easy to say without any desires. But we can wisely manage them to get a better life vertically and horizontally.