TED Talk 学习笔记

How to speak so that people want to listen | Julian Treasure

Avoid:

1. gossip
2. judging
3. negativity
4. complaning: viral misery
5. excuses
6. lying: embroidery, exaggeration
7. dogmatism: bombard somebody

Cornerstones/Foundations: HAIL, to greet or acclaim enthusiasitcally

1. Honesty: be clear and straight
2. Authenticity: be yourself
3. Integrity: be your word
4. Love: wish them well
   it's hard to love someone and judge them simultaneously

Tool box

1. register
2. timber
3. prosody
4. pace
5. pitch
6. volume

Warm up your voice (6 exercises)

1. stand up, arm up, deep breathe in, sigh out
2. go Ba Ba Ba
3. go Brrrrrrr (for lips)
4. go La La
5. go Lrrrrrrrrrr (for tongue)
6. from we (high) to aw (low)

Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | Tim Urban

Structure of a brain

1. Rational Decision-Maker: decide to carry out the plan
2. Instant Gratification Monkey: entertainment
3. Panic Monster: appear when deadline comes close, only thing that Monkey is terrified of
   Dark playground: a set of easy and fun thing in Monkey's charge
   Hard things: a set of plans
   They do intersect, but most of the time we choose the former one

Two kinds of procrastination

1. With a deadline, which Monster can work
2. Withoua a deadline, probably long-term, much less talked about, led to long-term guilt & unhappiness
   Everyone is a procrastinator. Everyone is procrastinating on something.
   Start now.

Looks aren't everything. Believe me, I'm a model. | Cameron Russell

Image is powerful, but also, image is superficial.

How to stay calm when you know you'll be stressed | Daniel Levitin

1. When the brain is under stress, it releases crotisol that raises your heart rate, modulates adrenaline levels and clouds your thinking.
2. Prospective hindsight (pre-mortem): look ahead and try to figure out all the things that could go wrong and what to do to prevent those things from happening or to minimize the damage or likelihood of it being a total catastrophy.
3. Remember under stress you're not thinking clearly. So think about how you're going to work through this ahead of time, so you don't have to manufacture the chain of reasoning on the spot.
4. So the idea of the pre-mortem is to think ahead of time to the questions that you might be able to ask that will push the conversation forward
5. Remember, our brain under stress releases cortisol, and one of the things that happens at that moment is a whole bunch on systems shut down. There's a evolutionary reason for this. Face-to-face with a predator, you don't need your digestive system, or your libido, or your immune system, because if your body is expending metabolism on those things, and you don't react quickly, you might become the lion's lunch and then none of those things matter.
6. The important point here is recognizing that all of us are flawed. We all are going to fail now and then. The idea is to think ahead to what those failures might be, to put systems in place.

The art of misdirection | Apollo Robbins

What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger